Sunday, June 15, 2014

Motivational Mondays Week 23: Work on broadening my circle of friends

23 weeks ago on a quest in 2014 to face some fears and mainly move out of my comfort zones I began Motivational Mondays.  I'm hoping to grow in many areas by embarking on this journey. I have heard that your amount of growth is directly related to how uncomfortable you are willing to get.  Join me this year as I get uncomfortable and get up off my duff.

So, on week 23 I decided to tackle  #48 :  Work on broadening my circle of friends

This is something that I haven't even THOUGHT of doing until it came up in therapy.  I needed to get more friends.  I have AMAZING friends, but I also have very busy friends who are all busy w/ spouses and or kids or both who just don't have time to "hang out" especially on a regular basis which I do have the time for.  It's hard to meet people, especially other single people who have the kind of time that I have time to be able to hang out with or to call when times get rough... to be a sounding board...just to have someone to listen to.  The last time that I added anyone to my circle of friends was 2 years ago when Anni was added and Bridget was added.  I signed up for these local "meet-ups", but haven't gone to any yet... it's hard... but I did meet someone online and she seems rather amazing.  We have a lot in common, but she is shy and has been REALLY hut bad in the past so trust is a big issue for her and she hasn't let anyone in her life for the last 4 years.  We do talk everyday either on the phone (which I just got her number last Friday) or we text.  I am anxious to meet and show her that I am not the hurting type of person.. but am not rushing her.  And Patience is something that I need a lesson in anyway so now I am REALLY getting one!  I will keep you posted as things move along.  I've been talking to her about 6 weeks - give or take-and hope she trusts to meet me soon.. like by the end of the month...I think 8 weeks is enough time to prove myself.. but still not pushing  it.

Level of uncomfortable-ness on a scale of 1-10, 1 being slightly uncomfortable and 10 being "I am only doing this for my readers and will never attempt this again" This rates a 7.

So, @ the end of the 22rd week of Motivational Mondays I am proud to say I have achieved my goal and can cross it off the list. 

Just 39 more to go... Here's what's left:
1. Do not sit in the back row at church.
2. Do not sit alone in the back row at church.
3. Introduce myself to someone at church I don't know.

4. Audition for a stage show.
5. Go out to eat alone.
6. Do not eat in bed for one day.
7. Do not eat in bed for one week.
8. Go one day without getting on the internet.
9. Post NO STATUS UPDATES on Fb for a week.
10. Write a very personal song and share it with someone.
11. Use of the computer is restricted to the dining room downstairs for one week or if I move.. anywhere in the house except the bedroom.
12. Sit in a chair instead of being on the comfy sofa for one week of therapy.
13. Spend one evening watching TV downstairs.
14. Spend one week watching TV downstairs.
15. Divulge something personal I have never told anyone before.
16. Eat lunch at work in front of my peers.
17. Go out to eat with someone (non family) and not ask to be hidden away in a booth somewhere.
18. Go w/o nail polish, even clear, for one week.
19. No texting (except my therapist) for one week.
20. Do not stay in bed past 9 a.m. on a Saturday.
21. Hug a stranger.
22. Invite someone over to my place and cook them dinner.
23. Make a dessert to share at work.
24. Go one week eating nothing from a can.
25. Go one week eating nothing purchased pre-prepared.
26. Try a new seafood.
27. Cook a meal for Mom and Mike.
28. Iron clothes for an hour straight
29. No FB for a week.
30. Go one week w/o eating leftovers
31. Wear something leg revealing
32. Go to work one day with no make-up on
33. Write left handed for a day
34. Give $20 to a stranger
35. Pay for the persons order behind me at the drive thru
36. Bless someone I know with at least $100
37. Cook dinner for my pastor and his wife
38. Go one day w/o using the microwave
39. Go 1 week w/o using the microwave
40. Wear my rings on opposite fingers
41. Get another piercing
42. Get another tattoo or get mine fixed
43. Dress up on dress down Friday
44. Use no emoticons for one week
45. Use no abbreviations or special characters when I journal for a day
46. No abbreviations or special characters when journaling for a week.
47. No use of color for one week
48. Work on broadening my circle of friends
49. Take a local unfamiliar road and see where it leads
50. Have lunch with a co-worker
51. Eat in public in front of a stranger
52. Eat fruit everyday for a week 

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